There are moments in our lives when we look back at them we see them as pivotal and they changed the path we traveled. Those moments can be sad, happy, amazing, devastating. They can catapult us in a new direction, but we do have a say in how we handle these moments and what the path before us can look like.
I can look back on life and see specifically a half dozen moments in life that changed my life. I know there are more if I were to look deeper. I’ll leave that for my coaching sessions.
As I sit here today, I know that I never imagined this point in my life. Don’t get me wrong life is not bad.
When I was a little girl, I bought into the fantasy of being married for 50 years to the love of my life with 2.5 kids and a house with a white picket fence. A perfect life. Whoever sold us that fantasy really messed up. There is NO perfect. Or is there?
What if I said my life WAS perfect just as it is?
My dad breaking his back when I was 12, marrying my highschool sweetheart at 19, divorcing that said sweetheart at 26, starting a business, losing a business, a miscarriage, starting another business, mom fighting cancer, traveling the globe and all the diversions, celebrations, and moments in between. The friends gained and lost. The births. The deaths. The tears. The joy. The successes. The losses. The pain. The hurt. The betrayal. The gratitude. The happiness. The adventure.
What if all that IS perfect just as it is?
They say that you only live once. YOLO. But I lean more towards, you only die once. I live life every single day. It doesn’t always look or feel perfect, but I am living an amazing journey. The woman I am today is unrecognizable to my 12 year old self, even to my 25 year old self. I’ve not done everything that I thought I would do and I’ve also done SO much more than I ever imagined.
I can’t compare my life to anyone else. I’m walking in my own shoes and no one else’s. Walking in someone else’s shoes isn’t always as desirable as we may think it is. We hear and see a lot of picture perfect lives on social media, or what appears to be picture perfect. Remember looks can be deceiving. When I traveled in 2017, I received lots of comments and messages from friends and curious observers about how awesome my life looked and how they wish they had my life.
They had no idea of the daily challenges and struggles I went through traveling the globe. Please don’t feel sorry for me. I traveled the globe for 8 months and it was incredible, but it was not without challenges. It was far from perfect, but it was my journey.
I’ve learned over the last few years to really take hold of life more than ever and just go for it. I’ve always been fearless, but I’ve grown into another level of myself that is more aware, more loving, more adventurous, more committed, more forgiving…just more. I also find my tolerance level for bullshit has gone to ZERO, nil, nada…like don’t even try to pull something on me. I don’t put up with petty nonsense. You can take your petty bullshit and don’t let the door hit you in the ass on the way out of my life. ZERO TOLERANCE.
Even the bullshit is perfect, right?
I put up with a lot of it for a very long time in my life. I wanted to please people. I thought I had to show up a certain way. I was too much for some people and not enough for others. I finally learned that I needed to figure out who I was; who I wanted to be and then once found, NEVER let it go.
The woman I am today is because through it all, I thrived. I blossomed. I weathered the seasons of life. I’m like the caterpillar who has finally become a beautiful butterfly. I’m strong, delicate and beautiful inside and out.
This journey called life is… PERFECTLY imperfect.
I want to encourage you to look at life through a different lense. You are perfect just where you are in this moment.